Is There Any Hope for an Unhappy Relationship?
Some people would be quick to tell you that any time spent in an unhappy relationship is time wasted, but this is not always the case. There are instances where couples are able to fight for a rocky relationship and actually turn it around. Unhappiness can be turned to happiness as long as there is love and a willingness to fight for it.
If you are in a miserable relationship and aren’t sure whether to call it quits or hold out hope for better things to come, ask yourself the following questions. Your answers will help you determine the likelihood of this relationship ever turning around so you can find happiness.
#1: What specifically is making you unhappy? Can those issues be solved realistically?
It’s one thing to feel unhappy in a relationship, but another thing entirely to know exactly what is causing that unhappiness. Spend a bit of time writing down the issues that are making you unhappy. Don’t censor yourself even if you are being petty or mean. This is for your own analysis and no one else has to see it unless you want them to.
Once you know exactly what is leading to the unhappy relationship on your part, it’s time to ask yourself honestly if those issues could realistically be solved.
For instance, if there are things about your partners personality or behaviors that you can’t live with or that rub you the wrong way there may be no way of fixing those things. It may be time to call it quits since the issues aren’t likely to change and are deal breakers on your part.
On the other hand, you could fix issues such as a partner who doesn’t spend enough time with you or who works too much. It is reasonable to assume those things could be worked out if you are both willing to try.
#2: Is your partner equally unhappy in the relationship?
Does your partner also consider this to be a miserable relationship? They may be unaware of the issues making you unhappy and might have a different assessment of the relationship. Have an open conversation with them and determine if they are equally unhappy and the exact issues causing their unhappiness.
Assess their issues in the same manner you did your own. Is it reasonable to expect these problems to be solved or is there no chance of ever making them happy?
#3: Are you willing to fight to strengthen the relationship? Is your partner willing?
Finally, you have to determine whether you care enough about your partner and the relationship to fight through the problems. You have to be willing to openly listen to one another and make changes that could solve the problems leading to a discontented relationship.
If your partner has been happy in the relationship, they still must be willing to listen to what is causing your unhappiness and make changes to fix those things. If they aren’t willing to do that then chances are the discontented relationship may come to an end quickly.
It isn’t easy to admit that you are in a miserable relationship and honestly answering these questions and discussing them with your partner is even harder. Yet, it is what you have to do if you want to turn the unhappy relationship into a mutually fulfilling relationship.