Rekindle Love When It Seems Lost
Sometimes when we are in a relationship for a long time the feeling of love we once has can seem to have gone cold. Our lives are full of stress and it’s all too easy to get too comfortable in a relationship and take it for granted. We often have so much going on in our lives that we feel that we have no time or energy to work on our relationship and we just let it slide. When this happens we start to wonder if we can rekindle love and get back to where we used to be.
In order to rekindle the love in your relationship you have to focus on a few aspects at the same time. You need to work on rebuilding the emotional side of the relationship while making sure the more intimate components are also where they should be.
In order to effectively do this you will have to play an active roll. You will have to make a plan and give the relationship the time and energy it deserves.
Try working some of the following into your plan to put the spark back in your relationship:
- Set up a “date night”. Dating is fun and exciting for most people, and a lot of relationships lose that aspect of them as time goes by. Bring it back by setting up a designated date night. Dress up, go out and do the things that you both enjoy doing together.
- We often get too comfortable in our relationships. Leaving the door open when you go to the bathroom, being a general slob or not taking care of your own personal hygiene are all ways we tell our partner that we don’t care about ourselves. If you show that you care about yourself, your partner will be more likely to feel the same way.
- Try taking a break. Sometimes we get so involved in life together that we forget that we also have lives apart from each other. In order to rekindle love, it’s often necessary to spend time apart. Distance, as they say, makes the heart grow fonder so plan a day away with friends or a movie night out where you can have fun away from work and from each other.
Remember that the more you put into the relationship the more you are going to get back out of it. It’s a two way street and requires a little give and take. If you like going to funny movies but she prefers horror, then once and a while let her pick the movie. Or if his idea of a good time is to go bowling and the local ally, then arrange a night to bowl.
Relationships naturally flow with ups and downs which can be frustrating at times, especially if you are not able to feel the way you want to feel. But unless something has happened to change the way either of you feel about each other, then you will be able to rekindle love in your relationship if you take the time to work at it.